I have the
right and need to express my conscience opinion
During the
years of my sporadic enquiries for information from Nazareth House and at various stages I was told the Sisters
had no idea how Dora Carmine could be located.
In not my view
it seems I wasn't to know my biological family members because as I located some of them I systematically endured stone
walling type tactics, my Phone Call severed the moment I introduced myself as Doras son and in another instance I received
a third hand message I wasn't allowed on to a certain sister of my mother's property
My self a
member of the Nuring fraternity it seemed someone might have strongly instructed them to avoid communications
in the same manner as avoiding "the plague"
My communications
included one of my mothers sisters a former novice Nun who had opted from taking her vows and was married and residing in ChristChurch I was initially surprized this charismatic lady
attempted to deny Dora ever had a child in earlier years
Ironically
this now lady was resident at Nazareth House when my birth took place there and it had been alleged this lady in
her younger years regularly enjoyed arranged weekend visits to see me the illegitimate son of her sister at the Licenced Foster
Home
I would have
never anticipated this particular lady to in any way lie to me
Despite the
lies and stone walling tactics eventually I heard of a Carmine death in another town and upon viewing that Death Notice at the Library I was able to procure my mothers marital
details and the North Island Town of Patea in which she lived until her death now nine years past
I subsequently communicated with my mother the following
day she was ecstatic I had found her she told my wife Maureen she had thought of me a lot over the years and how
she had written to the White's whom it seems may have been directed to adopt me thus successfully severing the natural
bond between my mother and I receiving no replies to any of her letters my mother formulated the opinion that perhaps
they had moved elsewhere. Mum was ecstatic to learn she had four young grand daughter’s longing to see and love
their real grand mother Cards Letter’s and Phone Call’s were regular both ways mum advised that she and her sister
Betty would be visiting, the duration was extremely short it was portrayed Betty was doing a Family Tree and my family
and I would be included “well I have never received a copy of such and have never heard from Betty since”.
We learnt mum had two daughters to her marriage and it seemed they were keen to meet us
it also seemed mums daughters had known of my existence for some time eventually we were invited to spend a week with mum
and her two daughters in Fielding the girls lived and worked there.
We did this and soon with that week looming to an end mum requested my family
and I drive her to her home in Patea which we did and spent three hours there with mum
And NO I never animalistically
grilled my mother for information she desreved to have more respect than to have that done to her
I believe mum would
have voulinteered that information at a later date
Communications continued as did cards and letters also notes for our daughters Suddenly
during a Telephone conversation one Saturday morning mum asked if I had sent her the Lawyer’s letter? What Lawyer’s
letter I asked? I had never commissioned any Lawyer to correspond with my mother she would not divulge the contents of
the alleged letter on the grounds she believed I already knew the contents
My attempts to rekindle our cherished communications were fruitless it seems I was blamed
for some cowardly low life’s treacherous actions.
I personally don’t know anyone who would stoop so low and to devastate our four young daughters
by tearing their grandmother from them whilst keeping themselves conveniently hidden in the shadows
In depth inquiries regarding the identity of the instigator of this alleged Lawyer’s
letter were to no avail, neither was writing to my mother via Registered Post it seemed quite clear someone had requested
abstinence from communicating with me This seemed the only logical reason to prevent me her illegitimate son from diplomatically establishing
the identity of his birth father there couldn’t have been any other reason for this seemingly powerful type of stand
over intervention between a mother and her son and his family.
My mother’s husband denied interfering in these matters
